The Birds & The Bees (new & improved)

This is a sex-positive blog for the purpose of education, and answering questions anyone has concerning sex, gender, sex education, sexuality, bodies, and anything else in your education and experience, or lack thereof, that has left you wondering.

Anonymous asked: Hey I'm wondering if you can help me, I am 17 years old I have a slight embarrassing problem, I can't cum. I've tired and tried but nothing happens... Afterwords about half an hour the pence becomes inflamed. What do I do ??

This is definitely something you should see a doctor about if you are experiencing the sensations of orgasm but not ejaculating. Since you’re in your late teens, this is either a case of you not having hit puberty yet (this is really only a possibility if you’ve never been able to ejaculate before), a side effect of certain medications, or “retrograde ejaculation” where the semen is pushed back into the bladder upon ejaculation. Any one of these would entail you seeing a doctor, and the swelling (of your penis, assuming that was a typo) especially leads me to say that you should should seek medical care.

If I misunderstood any part of your question (if you are not male-bodied, if you aren’t experiencing the sensation of orgasm just without ejaculation, or anything else), please let us know and we will be able to give you more accurate information.

Why shouldn’t I say trans*?

dirtybrian:

Using the asterisk after trans* seems inclusive until you actually look at its history and what trans women and nonbinary people are saying about it. Here are some links about the nonbinary erasure and transmisogyny.

All links go to posts on my own blog so they won’t go dead like the links in the last link-gathering post I saw on this.

wickedrandom:

Bra Fitting 101. This changed my life

There is some gendered language, but this can be incredibly helpful for those who wear bras, especially if you’re buying them in North America.

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p0kemina:

b0xedj3llyfish:


How Breasts Can Look
A little while back, I made a post about the Reality of Nude Photos, and the public reaction that really surprised me in response was that it seemed like a lot of people had never actually seen a female body in different positions like that before. Lots of people didn’t believe that both of the images in that post were really me, because my breasts looked so different in the two pictures.
And that really stuck with me. Not any kind of frustration at the disbelief I received, but a genuinely eye-opening realization that people didn’t know what breasts can look like when they’re just flopped around in a picture or looked at from a different side. 
I certainly don’t have the same breasts as every other woman out there, so this is in no way meant to represent all of womankind. Not by a long shot. Breasts come in all shapes and sizes and each woman is unique in the way that they will stretch, sag, move, bounce, and so on. Women have different nipples, different sized areolae, and very differently shaped breasts. 
These are my breasts. 12 photos of them just hanging out and doing their thing. Every woman in the world could make this photo chart and it would be a little bit different each time. And in my opinion, that is one of the most wonderful and amazing things about the human body.

When I reblogged this on my old tumblr saying not enough gals that I knew on tumblr/ IRL realised that boobs do all kinds of crazy things/aren’t supposed to always look the same or “”“perfect”“”, I actually got a few inboxes saying thank you for reblogging it/that it made them feel better about themselves sooooo I’m reblogging again/ long story short this is a great post/read it.

I reblogged this before but this is super important~

p0kemina:

b0xedj3llyfish:

How Breasts Can Look

A little while back, I made a post about the Reality of Nude Photos, and the public reaction that really surprised me in response was that it seemed like a lot of people had never actually seen a female body in different positions like that before. Lots of people didn’t believe that both of the images in that post were really me, because my breasts looked so different in the two pictures.

And that really stuck with me. Not any kind of frustration at the disbelief I received, but a genuinely eye-opening realization that people didn’t know what breasts can look like when they’re just flopped around in a picture or looked at from a different side. 

I certainly don’t have the same breasts as every other woman out there, so this is in no way meant to represent all of womankind. Not by a long shot. Breasts come in all shapes and sizes and each woman is unique in the way that they will stretch, sag, move, bounce, and so on. Women have different nipples, different sized areolae, and very differently shaped breasts. 

These are my breasts. 12 photos of them just hanging out and doing their thing. Every woman in the world could make this photo chart and it would be a little bit different each time. And in my opinion, that is one of the most wonderful and amazing things about the human body.

When I reblogged this on my old tumblr saying not enough gals that I knew on tumblr/ IRL realised that boobs do all kinds of crazy things/aren’t supposed to always look the same or “”“perfect”“”, I actually got a few inboxes saying thank you for reblogging it/that it made them feel better about themselves sooooo I’m reblogging again/ long story short this is a great post/read it.

I reblogged this before but this is super important~

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fucoid:

Spend 7 minutes of your life watching this show on gendered marketing

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policymic:

17 lies we need to stop teaching girls about sex

Fueled by outdated ideals of gender roles and the sense that female sexuality is somehow shameful, there are certain pernicious myths about girls and sex that just won’t die. That sex education in America has gaping holes doesn’t help much, either; in a recent Centers for Disease Control (CDC) report, just 6 out of 10 girls said that their schools’ sex ed curriculum included information on how to say no to sex. This lack of personal agency was reflected in a forthcoming study by sociologist Heather Hlavka at Marquette University as well, which found that many young girls think of sex simply as something that is “done to them.”

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Gendered language, but otherwise an excellent article

(Source: micdotcom, via rosietherevolter)